What I am about to tell you may be a little bit controversial.
In fact, your mind will probably be screaming, “NO! Don’t listen to this!” very soon. (This is normal, as I will explain to you shortly.)
I am here to tell you that if you’re not having the kind of success you would like to have with women, it’s probably because your mind is ENJOYING the failure.
After almost five years of helping men with their love lives, I have come to the conclusion that most guys are ADDICITED to rejections from hot women.
Even though they are not consciously aware of it (they may even argue against it when they hear my theory), most men are really so addicted to their feelings from past situations that every time they have a remote CHANCE of becoming successful with a stunning woman they meet at adultfrienedfinder, they mess up because they don’t know how to “handle” the success.
Let me explain this with an analogy.
Imagine your mind as a little elastic band sitting on your desk, unstretched.
Now, let’s pretend you’re talking to a truly stunning woman and it just so happens that she is VERY interested in you.
What will happen to your little elastic band then?
It will probably get stretched out to its limits – as your mind is suddenly forced to expand to accept the incredible encounter with this woman.
But the trouble with your mind is that just like any other rubber band, it is going to be fighting and fighting and fighting to go back to its original shape.
So as you try to make small talk with this hot woman, your mind will start telling you, “STOP! STOP! STOP! THIS SHOULDN’T BE HAPPENING! IT’S TOO MUCH FOR YOU TO HANDLE!”
As a result…you start to feel nervous…your palm starts to sweat…and you begin to mumble stupid things as your eyes start looking at the floor…
So why does your mind do this to you all the time?
It’s really simple.
You see…just like an elastic band, your mind is more comfortable in a RESTING position.
Believe it or not, if you have had nothing but failure with women in the past, then your mind will be COMFORTABLE letting you stay a failure with women, because then it won’t have any nasty “surprises”.
To put it in plan English. if you keep on getting rejected, your mind will at least know what to expect.
Your mind is actually AFRAID of what you’re capable of.
Because with personal change, ANYTHING could happen:
– You might bump into a few walls that you haven’t bumped into before. (Your mind would rather see you bump into the SAME walls over and over…because that way it’d know what to expect.)
– You might learn to work on yourself. (Your mind would rather see you stay the same because change is scary.)
– You might let go of some of your old beliefs. (VERY scary to a mind.)
– You might learn that you ARE in control of your own life. (EXTREMELY scary to a conservative mind that is used to blaming external factors for your failures.)
So what should you do?
Here’s your solution:
Replace your old elastic band with a longer and thicker one.
Know that you are in control of EVERYTHING you do.
You choose what you do.
You choose what you wear, what you say, what you believe, and what you do when you approach a woman.
They are all YOUR choices, get it?
Keep exploring new options. If something hasn’t been working for you all these years, it’s not going to “suddenly” work for you now.
You’ve got to come up with NEW ways to do things, even if your mind doesn’t feel comfortable with the new changes. If you’re feeling confused, angry, fearful, or depressed with your love life, it means whatever you’re doing isn’t working for you right now.
Because if you keep on doing old things because they make you more comfortable, then you’re just going to keep getting your OLD results.
The bottem line is…if you want to have success with women, then you’ll have to change SOONER OR LATER.
So the ONLY question is: how much more pain do you want to undergo before you change your life for the better?
How many more times do you want to make the SAME mistakes with women until you finally start learning how to do things the RIGHT way?
Here’s the exercise of the day. Take out a piece of paper and a pen.
Write down 5 things that you would like to do differently from now on.
1) “I am going to go out every Friday night from now on…no matter how busy my schedule is.”
2) “I am going to try to close for the number every time I meet a new woman.”
3) “I am going to start saying ‘no’ to women.”
4) “I am going to go out instead of watching TV from now on.”
5) “I am going to be more sociable with EVERYBODY from now on.”
No more excuses. No more sitting on your couch. Make yourself a commitment to change yourself for the better TODAY. Not tommorow, not next week, but today!